Marriage without kids.... anyone want?

You can figure that each kid will cost you between 500,000 and 750,000 by the
time it's all over. Just think of the cars you can buy with that......?

 

I have a kid and I'm not getting married. The 2 Moms tried to get me to walk the aisle and I told both of them I'm a lot more scared of the divorce court Judge than either of them so she wins.

Only way I'll get married is if I'm terminal or 100 years old

 

My ex kindly informed me that women are made to be mothers, but I think in my case there's just so much evidence pointing in another direction.

If I score one of those house husbands I would definitely be interested in purchasing some kids in fifteen years or so. I get excited for girls who are pregnant and everything, but I personally just don't want to assemble any people myself.

On a related note, ever been to a nursing home on a holiday? Yikes.

 

Really ? Interesting...

$500k is more than my family earned total in the first 18 years of my life. So I would have to disagree with those numbers.

So Ive corrected your statement for you below:

"You can figure that each spoiled brat will cost you between 500,000 and 750,000 by the
time it's all over."

 

Well it was worked out that in the UK a child cost £100,000 up to the age of 18.

 

We are in our 50's. We never wanted nor had kids nor dogs nor any other animals. Adding those in can only complicate things. We have enough responsibilities. We cannot even associate with people who have kids as their lives are 100% consumed by their offspring.

aehaas

 

http://nymag.com/news/features/67024/

http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,2002382,00.html

Two interesting articles.


(I think should be move to the Silver section.)

 

I would rather cease to live than to have a child......you spend your money, and life raising them, and then they end up getting into God knows what draining you of even more money and energy. It all seems like one big headache to me. So does marriage for that matter.

 

the Earth is over populated!

 

I've never seen the point in getting married all that much....just a little piece of paper that tells you that you life together.

If I was with a girl who insisted on getting married, have her sign an awesome pre-nup where she gets zilch if it all fails...if she all of a sudden doesn't want to marry anymore you know enough!

Saying that, if I didn't have more than enough money it'd be a no go anyways.

As for marrying and not having kids, I see even less point in a marriage.

 

Well, we've TRIED to associate with people who have kids but you're right - 100% of the time they're fidgeting about with their kids or talking about them. It gets annoying.

RMX

 

I've been with my GF for 16+yrs. No kids, no marriage. Just don't want to dedicate the time or have that responsibility.

 

My moms cousin just got married after he and his gf dated for 21 years.

You still have time, lol.

 

I can't even count the number of people I've disassociated myself with because those people can't even talk about anything other than their offspring.

 

That is one of the hard parts about becoming a parent. It's far too easy to lose your ability to have "normal" conversations. I'd say it's easier for a dad to re-integrate with a group of single/childless guys than for a mom. But the two dominant things in your life are work and kids, and that's what you end up blabbering about, which is why we tend to seek out the company of other parents My parents are visiting, and last week I picked up my wife from work and kidnapped her. We went to a bar and had margaritas like the old days (it's been a long time), and we actually talked about other things than work/kids/family and enjoyed ourselves. It felt great, but as soon as we got home, it turned back to the same old stuff.

 

The sad thing is that you never really know what your spouse is going to be like until you actually marry them. Then if they turn out to be a horrible partner (despite being an apparently good gf/bf) it is much more difficult and expensive to break it off with them.

Perhaps a question that goes along with this thread would be to childless couples married 10 years or more. "If you had it to do over, would you still have married them?"

My guess would be the honest answer for the majority would be no. Obviously less than that have actually chosen to divorce, some stay in a crappy situation for various reasons.

Kids only complicate the situation. Many people stay in bad marriages and make the best of it for the sake of having a good relationship with their children. Ask me how I know...

 

43, married 15 years, very happy and no kids.....children are murder on relationships and very bad on furniture as well, pets on the other hand are only bad for furniture!!!

 

Having kids to me is the ultimate "to each their own" issue. If I didn't want a family, I doubt I would have married. Hard to say for sure, because we're always changing as people. But I dated a LOT in my 20s and early 30s and didn't marry until I was 36. My wife is wonderful, and we're a great team both as parents and partners. It's my guess that a married w/o kids couple finds it easier to maintain the same feelings and lifestyle of dating than those with children. It's a simpler life, no doubt. And I'd be lying if I said I don't ever have moments of envy. I do know that with kids, you have to consciously focus on your relationship with your spouse. I'd like to hear married w/o kids couples comment on how they maintain their relationships over time.

 

Do you do date nights and parents-only vacations?

 

My wife and I have been married nine years without any kids. I can't pretend to know what life would be like for us with kids, but we have to focus on our relationship just like anyone else. Careers, hobbies and other distractions in life can easily erode a marriage if you let them. My wife and I are part of a married couple's Sunday School class that is great for discussing topics among a group and privately between us. Staying engaged in your relationship helps to prevent a lot of problems that plague troubled marriages.

Anything more specific you want to know, Jack?