Lending your car to family members...

Where does your father want to take it and will he park it in a safe spot to assure no door dings etc? As long as its somewhere you would take your car and he knows the deal about parking spots, it should be ok.

If he wants to take it to nursery to pick up some plants or potting soil, Id pass on it.

When I'm away for an extended period of time, I always ask my brother to stop by drive my car a couple of times a week. He wont take it to the gym as the parking spaces are too small.

 

How many miles have you driven your Dads cars? Get over it, suck it up and do the right thing. My Dad can have any of my cars at any time for as long as he wants, he's earned it. That includes the Ferrari. What he's done for me is worth more than any car.

 

I can understand your feelings about your car, but sometimes ya gotta let go. No doubt your dad has done more for you over the years, and this might be a way of showing you recognize that and want to return the favor. Might not be a bad idea to bring up how you feel, perhaps in a joking way. Like "I can understand how nervous you must have felt when I asked to borrow the car...." Good way to get it all in the open. Good luck, handled right it can be a bonding experience.

 

I fully agree with this

 

Same. Any dings or scratches are not worth the relationship issues of saying no.

 

it's just a car.....

 

My thoughts exactly. I have let my Dad drive any of my cars in the past and he's welcome to any time he wants.

I wouldn't have them without his raising me...

John

 

I have no problem with letting my dad drive my Vette. He bought it for me, paid for my way through college, and let me live with him for free when I was having a hard time finding a job after being laid off. I let my uncle do it as well. He has lended me his truck numerous times when I needed to haul more than my little 4-cyl Frontier could handle.

But now here's a problem. I have an 18 year old cousin that is pretty level headed. He doesn't drink, smoke or do any kind of drugs. He's focused on his grades and is debating on whether or not to enlist in the Navy or go to college on an ROTC scholarship. Anyway, he called me this morning wanting to borrow the Vette for his prom. I know how responsible he is, yet, it's my baby and he can't afford to fix anything should he mess it up. He has a Camaro that he baby's and never hot rods it because he's too cheap to pay for gas. He has driven the car before with me in it, and he did fine. I guess I have some thinking to do.

 

You just spent a lot of space explaining to us why you should loan it to your cousin. What's the issue? If you're not sure, call and ask the guy that bought you the car.

 

He raised you, right?

But apparently he didn't raise you right.

WTF?? Your Dad spend 8 gillion dollars, and 8 gillion hours raising you, asks to borrow "your" car, and you even consider saying no?

He has insurance?

He has a driver's License?

Hand over the friggin keys, you ungrateful SOB, and maybe, grow the F up just a little.

IT IS A CAR, HE IS YOUR DAD. DO you think you might owe him that much?

I would have "lent"my dad a kidney, if I could have.

dm

 

The problem with letting a responsible 18 yo drive your Vette is that he'll probably be driving in the vicinity of non-responsible 18 yo's.

 

I don't know your Dad but unless he's an unresponsible jackass I think it's very very rude of you to not let him drive your car. Now if he's the alcaholic type of father who owes you money and could care less about what happens to your car, you may have a valid point. Otherwise you're way too selfish, especially when the cars at hand are a 911 and a Z06. I could understand someone posting this about a real high-end car but come on.

 

What kind of car are we talking about? Your profile says no Fcars?

Is you dad a safe driver? I mean if he's 90 and gets lost that's one thing... With very few exceptions my dad can borrow any car I would be likely to own.. If I owned an F1 car, and he had never driven on a track, I'd say no... until he went to school... but except for that....

My concern would be for my dad's safety. the car can be repaired.

 

I would give my father anything I have that he asks for it is the least I could do for him. Like everyone else says unless he for health reasons shouldn't drive or is an addict of somesort I wouldn't hesitate. I know I have driven my Father's cars over 30k miles in the last 4-5 years. Heck the guy taught me how to drive.
Erik

 

If you don't feel right about it then just come up with an excuse. Tell him that you called insurance and they said that you are the only one insured.

 

my truck yes, any of the cars or motorcycles-HELL NO!

 

My mom wouldn't want to.. it's too fast/loud for her. I let my ex drive it when I was in the car and it STILL drove me nuts. I don't like anyone driving my car and it's a Mustang, not a Ferrari.

 

He taught me how to drive a manual ( a three on the tree chevy impala convertable he was so proud of..I drve it sitting on his lap in those days...)

But he is old and the cars are real hard to get into and he is a very modest unselfish guy...I beg him so that he could have the F-car expereince but Ferraris just don't impress him. He bought a new caddy recently and said it was a POS and went back to his Olds ( he buys one every three years) can't break it to him that GM is ending the brand -- he is a WWII hero and only buys american.

OTOH -- NEVER lend it to a freind, my freind and partner borrowed my T cab to impress some German girls over a weekend...he said he would "treat it as his own and don't worry I will fix it if it breaks..." well a 5G bill later at autoelite and a DOA $2000 and a bustedunderpan...did he pay for it...no way..

 

They're only cars, dude. Unless your old man has some history of destroying everything he touches, what's the problem?

 

It's not just a CAR!!!!!!

but it is your DAD

Let him drive it
He was the one that prob taught you to drive

 

For me the answer depends on the car. When I was 16 I wanted nothing more than to drive -- just once -- my dad's (red) Porsche 924S. My dad, however, sold the car the day before my 16th birthday --- literally 4 hours before I turned 16.

Now, I can understand the reasoning. Insuring me on that car for a prolonged period of time would have been insane. I know that now, and knew that then. But would one quick ride have killed us?

So my rule, to sort of 'needle' my dad, is that he can drive any of my cars unless it's a sports car. (It doesn't hurt him much, he has his own)


In the end, though, I'm with the masses. Give the car to your dad. I would mine if he didn't have his own. (I would, of course, preface the loan with a long lecture about my pain).

Tell Dad not to bring it back with the tank empty and smile as he backs down the driveway. It's good practice for the day your girlfriend or wife will want (or need) to borrow your car, and better still for the day your son or daughter will ask you for the keys.

 

Are you nuts? If my father wanted to borrow my car, I'd put myself up for adoption.

And I'm 39.

(Just make sure the family member is proficient with an expensive clutch/stick -- actually my dad would love my car. He's a real sports car guy.)

 

nobody drives my car other than me. although it seems odd that i am willing to let a ferrari owner (a specific one, not you) drive it, with little worries. although i think it has to do with his complete respect of cars, and some of the horses (and bulls) in his stable that keeps me at ease

its very odd how things work.

i guess i could hide behind the fact that if a semi unexperienced person drive it - it would be, frankly, dangerous. now im not talking about a person that doesnt know how to operate a manual transmission. a person that is perfectily proficient at a manual, but has gone around in very pedestrian cars their life (hondas, 3 series, RX, and even an 87 mustang). the performance of my car is simply astonishing, something not to be offered to the weak hearted. the acceleration, deceleration, and handling is something that a sane person would not try and test the limits of, simply because you would find that infact, yes the car does lose handling grip to understeer at 145 on the freeway interchange. of course, you'll understand this only as you have broken through the barrier and are completing the 50 foot journey to the road way below.

really, its a self preservation thing. nay; my civic duty, to the citizens of my city, to prohibit people from driving my car due to the inherent characteristics that is possesses

 

Is that the Evo?